I was doing a private lesson recently with an athlete who has struggled with fear off and on for the past two years. This specific athlete has overcome some physical restrictions that even I thought would probably not be overcome. This fear that plagues her has caused both of us an array of different emotions through the past couple of years. We have celebrated victory and mourned defeat, and it seams like both of these events has happened multiple times over the years. During this private we had an open heart to heart where she expressed her frustrations. These frustrations that have even caused her to consider quitting the one thing that she loves most of all. As she and I spoke I began to hear a lot of my same frustrations with life in general over the years. So I came up with a couple of takeaways that I hoped sharing here would be of benefit to others.
Failure and Success are results of patters.
Throughout life and any other endeavor we attempt, the results will be a result of lessons learned and habits formed. During the time spent on whatever the journey one will create a series of habits and patterns that will dictate success or failure. As we move on towards the goal we begin to learn what things steer us towards success and which plummet us towards the pits of failure. The idea is to implement those things we learn that lead us to success and avoid the patterns that lead us towards failure.
The Pits of Failure are a great place to find the patters of success
While wading through the muck in the pits of failure, you have two choices. 1) You can either focus on the much in which you wade, or 2) you can look up and reflect on the patters that lead you towards success. I think the reason we get so discouraged during times of failure is because we are so inclined to focus on the negative emotions associated with failure that we get stuck there. It’s like the emotional stress during times of failure is designed to keep us focused on the failure instead of learning what it was that brought us success in order to render us useless and keep us stuck in the muck. If we can recognize the emotions and control them, then we can look back at what patterns kept us from stepping in the muck.
So, I’ll ask you what I asked her.
What were you doing during your last blissful encounter with success that you no longer do?
It seems like when we fall into patterns that lead to success we get distracted or perhaps too comfortable. After we taste success we feel that we’ve arrived and stop doing the things that we did to get us there in the first place. This is probably the biggest mistake we make, but it in itself is one of the patterns that leads to failure. This, of all of the patterns, is one to be avoided like the plague.
Take on a posture of constantly improving, that way since you’ve never arrived at your best, you will continue the patterns of success that catapult you towards constant success.